One size doesn’t fit all. This goes for clothing, shoes, bicycles and individual learning. Kids are different. Their abilities are different. The efforts are different. Their struggles are different. Their successes are different.
Each year as the school year begins we are faced with choices on how to deal with achievements and disappointments. Having multiple children with different learning speeds makes homework and report card time stressful as parents.
Our eldest daughter is given leeway on her work and study time. She’s trusted to complete her work with little micro management from us. She’s already completed 11 years of school and is quickly finishing her senior year of high school. That’s not to say her school career hasn’t been without bumps but overall her learning personality has been easy to work with. School conferences have been uneventful, reports cards have been mostly excellent. When the instances presented themselves that classes were more difficult we approached them with revised study methods.
Studying has never been our son’s strong suit. Entering fifth grade brought a whole new world of teaching that he didn’t know was out there. For his first few years of school his effort was always appreciated. It was enough to please teachers and provide good grades. This year his teacher is expecting more. She’s looking at the details and wants her students to do the same. He’s now spending more time on penmanship and research than he’s used to. Homework is sometimes a struggle but when he completes a story summary with complex details I do a little dance of joy. While he may need more supervision to finalize his work it’s worth it to see the high grades coming home. His passion for reading grows each day and that in of itself is something to celebrate.
The youngest has always craved learning. Since she was a toddler she’d find a book to look through or a scrap of paper to scribble on. These days as she’s waiting for her school day to start she’ll work on an art project or new story to show to her teacher. Her first half of first grade has gone very well. She’s been introduced to advanced reading work and is working more independently versus other students. She comes home ready to tackle her weekly homework in just one night. Her enthusiasm to learn is refreshing and I hope she never loses that excitement.
My child are smart cookies. Each have their own passion and zeal for life. Each have their own interests and hobbies. We work on a harmonious blend of all of these traits to hopefully end up with well rounded, educated, productive members of society.
Learning achievements are one of the best motivators to get children more excited about earning better test scores and grades. Celebrating each child’s achievements in their own way encourages them to keep striving for the best of their ability.